The holiday season has officially begun and you don’t want to be the one that didn’t have any fun. Let’s first remember that this month’s big bash is about giving thanks. Start by giving thanks for not having to butter ungrateful balls. It may be your first Thanksgiving without Mr. Turkey, but it’s not your first without significant others.
Most of my fondest Thanksgiving memories are from childhood and there’s a reason for that – I didn’t have to do anything but stuff myself silly before watching “The Twilight Zone,” with my brother. Who said youth is wasted on the young? Admit it–you had fun watching those flowers float.
Older and wiser, we know that holidays are hard work. We get so caught up in wanting to make everybody happy that we forget our own well-being. Dreams of being feathered and decapitated may occur as you are determined to not cry in the cranberry sauce on the big day. Whether past holidays were heaven or hell, they were familiar. Now you are navigating in uncharted waters – not unlike the Pilgrims.
The good news is you are now the dinner decider. You can Butter Ball it or not. The day can be spent with family and friends or not. Just remember to remember what you have to be thankful for. You may feel like just giving your ex the bird, but why not make a thankful list. For example:
Be thankful for your children and/or thankful that you don’t share any lifelong DNA with your ex.
Be thankful that you don’t have to deal with his crazy family anymore.
Be thankful you don’t have to cook unless you want to. If you’re having the dinner at your abode, you can order the entire meal and not tell a soul.
You don’t have to watch football games and can indulge yourself in a mindless marathon of a favorite television program. “SVU” anyone?
Be thankful you have a roof over your head. Hopefully, you hired a good attorney and it is a very big roof. You could have landed on a rock.
Be thankful for the good times past, being present and hopeful about the good times that are sure to follow.
Be thankful for having loved and been loved.
Thank your mother for having you.
Be thankful and grateful for your mind, body and soul.
As you drift off to sleep, be thankful in the knowledge that your slumber won’t be interrupted by the sudden sensation of butter balls pressing up against you.