My Girl Pam Grier is back in Black!

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PAM GRIER AND BENNIE RICHBURG
IN ASSOCIATION WITH eONE ARE PROUD TO ANNOUNCE
“BLACK HAWK”
A NEW
ONE-HOUR ACTION/DRAMA SERIES

Los Angeles – December 5, 2013 – Golden Globe® nominated actress Pam Grier and award-winning writer and producer Bennie Richburg have partnered to develop a new one hour action drama. Grier will star in the lead role, while Richburg will pen the series.

The series follows Pam’s character, an ex-Homeland Security agent who is pulled out of retirement to lead a young but highly qualified team of “shoot first, ask questions later” agents. They are on a trail of homegrown domestic terrorists who have set about to bring anarchy to the heartland of the United States and have to stop them before it is too late.

Grier’s career has spanned more than three decades, starring in such films as JACKIE BROWN, MARS ATTACKS! and ABOVE THE LAW. Her recent credits include THE MAN WITH THE IRON FISTS, LARRY CROWNE and JUST WRIGHT.

Richburg recently completed the screenplay of Grier’s New York Times best-selling memoir Foxy: My Life in Three Acts.

Grier is represented by Harry Gold of TalentWorks. Richburg is represented by attorney Hillary Jones, who will also serve as a producer on the show.

Michael Rosenberg, EVP US Scripted Television at eOne, and eOne’s Harrison Reishman will oversee the project on behalf of the studio.

eOne develops, produces, acquires and distributes programming across all genres. eOne’s shows include BITTEN and HAVEN on Syfy; HELL ON WHEELS on AMC; Discovery Channel’s first-ever scripted mini-series KLONDIKE, co-produced by Discovery, eOne, and Nomadic Pictures in association with Scott Free Television, which premieres in January 2014; ROOKIE BLUE on ABC and Shaw Media; ROGUE, DIRECTV’s first original scripted series starring Thandie Newton; CALL ME FITZ on DIRECTV and HBO Canada; SAVING HOPE on CTV; and BITTEN on Space. The group also handles distribution of AMC’s THE WALKING DEAD.

Spirit in the Sky

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Mrs. No More made a movie! I don’t want to scare you. Ok, I do. For your consideration, and in the spirit of the spirits, without further ado. I give you…Spirit in the Sky, written and directed by, Yours Truly, and co-starring, Yours Truly. Trick or treat.

Just my type

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LoveDefinitionInTypewriter1The first Valentine’s Day after my divorce, I felt massacred . It had been over a year since I discovered his affair, and I filed for divorce on February 9th the following year.

He  had moved and they were expecting a chocolate child.

What I truly missed on this Hallmark Holiday, are the last-minute gold and diamond trinkets he used to rush out and buy me.  I miss his guilt gifts.

The next year, I decided I needed to find a new way to celebrate Valentine’s Day. Instead of dwelling on what I no longer had, I would focus on what I still had/have — good  humor. While my ex-husband was living  in a McMansion with his new family , I was wasting away in “Margaritaville.

The guests at my pity party had long gone, but the party on my face was going strong. I needed to put down the shaker and shake my mind maker – writing.   I used to write everyday.  Okay, not everyday, but I thought about it everyday.  I am writing now.  Word.

I’ve had my heart-broken many times since my divorce.  I still get, “can’t we be friends,” from men who don’t know the meaning of friendship, or they wouldn’t ask such a moronic question.

Today, I will not receive flowers, chocolates or Victoria’s Secret thongs (which are just plain wrong.)

Tomorrow, I will go to the drug store and buy myself a big box of chocolates marked, 50%  – Rose boxers, too.  Because I am worth it and so are you!

When the Broom Breaks

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jumpingthebroom“Jumping the Broom.”

The significance of the broom to Black Folk heritage and history originates in the West African country of Ghana. During the Trans-Atlantic Slave Trade, most of Ghana in the 18th century was ruled by the Asante of Ashanti Confederacy. The Asante’s urban areas and roads were kept conspicuously clean according to visiting British and Dutch traders with the use of locally made brooms. These same brooms were used by wives or servants to clean the courtyards of palaces or homes. The broom in Asante and other Akan cultures also held spiritual value and symbolized sweeping away past wrongs or removing evil spirits.

This is where the broom comes into play regarding marriage. Brooms were waved over the heads of marrying couples to ward off spirits. The couple would often but not always jump over the broom at the end of the ceremony. Jumping over the broom symbolized the wife’s commitment or willingness to clean the courtyard of the new home she had joined. Furthermore, it expressed her overall commitment to the house. It also represented the determination of who ran the household. Whoever jumped highest over the broom was the decision maker of the household (usually the man). The jumping of the broom does not add up to taking a “leap of faith.”

The irony is that practice of jumping the broom was largely discarded after Emancipation in America which was consistent with the eventual fall of the Ashanti Confederacy in Ghana in 1897 and the coming of British customs. Jumping the Broom did survive in the Americas, especially in the United States, among slaves brought from the Asante area. This particular Akan practice of jumping the broom was picked up by other African ethnic groups in the Americas and used to strengthen marriages during slavery among their communities.

Jumping the broom was not a custom of slavery, but is a part of African culture that survived American slavery like the Voodoo religion of the Fon and Ewe ethnic groups or the ring shout ceremony of the BaKongo and Mbundu ethnic groups. With slavery over and superficial hints of racial integration allowed, African-Americans could now have European-style marriages. Jumping the broom had nothing to do with Whites.

Once Blacks could have weddings with rings that were recognizable by anyone as a symbol of marriage, the broom ceremony wasn’t required. During this time, jumping the broom fell out of practice from the stigma it carried, and in some cases still carries, among African Americans who wanted nothing to do with anything associated with that era. The practice survived, and made a resurgence after publication of Alex Haley’s book “Roots.”

Currently, many African and African American couples include jumping the broom at the end of their wedding ceremonies as a tribute to tradition. And even couples who do not actually jump a broom when they get married, often refer to, or at least recognize, the phrase to be synonymous with getting married in the same way most Americans associate “tying the knot” with getting married.

Broom jumping is also practiced by non-Black groups and in different religions around the world with some variation. Wiccans and Gypsies are among some of the groups who developed their own broom-jumping tradition.

Brooms break like a bad weave. A Dirt Devil was required to get these couples out from under all the dust of deceit. After all was said and done, theses Sisters  are in the Black, except for If I Could Turn Back The Hands of Time, Halle just bury him already.

Nas & Kelis Martin

Christina Milian and Terius “The-Dream” Nash

Martin Lawrence & Shamicka Gibbs

Shaquille & Shaunie O’Neal

Michael and Juanita Jordan

Eddie and Nicole Murphy

Lisa Raye McCoy & Michael Misick

Dwyane & Siohvaughn Wade
Lionel and Diane Ritchie

 

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“You’re the first, the last, my everything!”

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Roses are red, February is love dread

If this is another Valentine’s Day’s with no Boo  

Here’s what we’re going to do

Skip the nervous breakdown

By staying in our nightgown.

 

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On Valentine’s Day, lovers everywhere celebrate the day with all sorts of rituals, both old and new. Flowers will be given, romantic candlelight dinners enjoyed and intimate relations of course enjoyed.
One of the added touches to any Valentine’s Day celebration is music. Mood setting music ranging from romantic to sexy will be played in restaurants, living rooms, and, well, yes, bedrooms.
But what about those without a significant other? What about those who have recently gone through a breakup or just have not found that soul mate yet?
What kind of music should THEY be playing?
I’m glad you asked.
The following is a list of my top ten all time anti-Valentine’s Day lyrics.
Oran “Juice” Jones “The Rain”
The classic Def Jam record chronicles the story of a man who catches his woman on a date with another man, and concludes with the hilarious confrontation.
“Did you miss me? I missed you too. I missed you so much I followed you today.”
Eminem “Kim”
Raw emotion makes for great art. Eminem wrote this murderous tale after his on/off girlfriend Kim (hence the title) cheated on him. This one still gives me chills to this day.
“Never knew me cheating on you would come back to haunt me / But we was kids then Kim, I was only 18 / That was years ago / I thought we wiped the slate clean”
Erykah Badu “Tyrone”This classic song about a woman kicking her man to the curb even had the fellas conceding defeat.“I think you better call Tyrone / But you can’t use my phone”

D’Angelo “S**t, Damn, M**********r”

R&B’s Howard Hughes sings about catching his wife with his best friend. Violence ensues.

“I’m ’bout to go get my nine / and kill both of y’alls behinds”

TLC “No Scrubs”

Labeled male bashers by every man after the song dropped, only the ones that fit the description should’ve been mad at T-Boz, Left Eye and Chilli.

“I don’t want your number / No / I don’t wanna give you mine / And no / I don’t wanna meet you nowhere / No / I don’t want none of your time”

Kelis “Caught Out There”

Kelis’ debut single was definitely the tale of a woman scorned and helped make her a household name.

“So sick of your games / I’ll set your truck to flames / And watch it blow up, blow up”

Blondie  “Heart of Glass”

The dance-able, pop song from pop-punk band Blondie is too charming to resist, with Debbie Harry’s beautiful voice, and the catchy guitar riff. ‘Once had a love, and it was divine/Soon I found out I was losing my mind.’

Soft Cell – “Tainted Love”

Don’t touch me please
I cannot stand the way you tease
I love you though you hurt me so
Now I’m going to pack my things and go

Gloria Gaynor – “I Will Survive”

I’ve got all my life to live
I’ve got all my love to give
And I’ll survive

Tina Turner – “What’s Love Got To Do With It?

What’s love but a second hand emotion
What’s love got to do, got to do with it
Who needs a heart
When a heart can be broken

 

 

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” Wear comfortable shoes.

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322810_to-be-continuedCongratulations!  If you’re reading this text you’ve survived your SECOND SINGLE New Year’s Eve intact.  By intact I mean, you’re breathing.  You may or may not be hung over or glad you were too out of it to hang yourself.  The good news is – you are here.  Sound familiar?  Hopefully you are not back where we started one year ago, when you found yourself a Mrs. No. More.

If so, rinse and repeat this blog.

My work here is done.  I’ve given you my all.  Well, at this point, like most advice,  I would just be repeating myself.  The last thing you need is a marriage recovery marathon.

Ready for year two?  It’s ready for you.

You may be surprised by the long, arduous journey of emotions that you are still experiencing. There is no right or wrong way to work through your individual emotional phases. Being aware that they are there and giving them validation, often times will move you farther along your unique path of grief. Be prepared for unexpected reoccurrence in the future, months or even years after you believed that you were through with it, and had moved beyond the reach of the pain.

These flashback events are most often triggered by important life events, such as the graduation or marriage of a child, moving from a home with strong emotional ties, the birth of a child or grandchild, or the death of a loved one. It is generally believed that our painful memories are all stored in the same part of the brain, so a new one can open the floodgates to old memories and the accompanying pain of grief and loss. We can be taken completely by surprise, as the agonizing memories come crashing back like massive emotional Tsunamis.

By expecting these occasional relapses and remembering that there is not a completion date to grief, you allow your emotions to flow through the stages at their individual pace. Also, realize that you may revisit a phase you thought you were finished with many times, and that is okay. Your mind knows what it needs and will process the information continually until it reaches some level of acceptance, allowing you to move beyond the grief and turn the first page on the new chapter in your life.

Allow yourself validation for your pain and grief and distance yourself from those who undermine your progress. You are a unique person and your suffering, coping and moving skills are as individual as you are. That is the way we were made.

Warning…

Whatever you do, don’t jump the broom again too soon.  If you fell in love your freshman year of divorce – don’t rush to another judgment.   I  leave you with sobering advice from the professionals.

It’s been proven that the second marriage divorce rate is statistically higher than that of first marriages because of a few simple, yet critical mistakes that many people make when they enter their second marriage.

Psychology Today stated that a whopping 60% of remarriages fail. And they do so even more quickly; after an average of 10 years, 37% of remarriages have dissolved versus 30% of first marriages.

If anything can be learned from this, it is the fact that you need to enter a second marriage with CAUTION. Here are some tips that will help you make sure that your second marriage is a success…

Make Sure You REALLY Know Who You’re Marrying.

Be sure that YOUR beliefs are in line with your spouse’s. By beliefs, I’m not only talking about religion. I’m also talking about your partner’s beliefs about making and saving money, disciplining children, daily love & affection, sex, household chores and even social beliefs.

It is opposite beliefs on subjects like these that will quickly put your relationship on the fast track to divorce.

In your hunger to find new love, you may be tempted to idealize life with your fiancé and ignore the discussion of opposite beliefs that could cause conflict in your marriage.

But believe me; if you do this and find out later on in your marriage that you and your spouse have completely opposite beliefs, you will be in a WORLD of hurt and pain. Don’t make the same mistakes you did in your first marriage. Discuss these issues NOW. Don’t wait because you don’t want to spoil the mood.

Based on your last marriage, write down every little thing you and your ex fought about Don’t Rush Into Marriage Because You’re Blinded By Love.

Research shows that the possibility of a second divorce greatly increases if you’ve been in a relationship with a person for less than a year. Don’t think this research does not apply to you. As difficult as it may be to accept, these ARE the facts.

“… and you can bet your last money, it’s all gonna be a stone gas, honey! I’m Mrs. No More, and as always in parting, I wish you love, peace and soul!”

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Happy New Year!

 

When the Ball Drops

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Auld Lang Syne by Robert Burns


Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
And never brought to mind?
Should auld acquaintance be forgot
And auld lang syne?
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If you tied the knot on New Year’s Eve

You are not alone in your dashed dreams of starting the New Year with a new spouse.  Witness those listed who shared your dream and got hitched on December 31.  Just like you, they too are ringing in the New Year without their former ball drops:

Jennifer Carpenter & Michael C. Hall

Kate Hudson & Chris Robinson

Halle Berry & David Justice

Tia Carrere & Simon Wakelin

Deidre Hall & Steve Sohmer

Vanna White & George Santopietro